When my kids were much younger, and because my wife is there step mother, I always bought my own gift, gave it to her. When the kids came over they would all wrap it together. They would always make cards, which for one reason or another I still have.
Chainsaw, Miter saw, Portable Garmin, what else... thats all I can remember.
One year my wife did buy me a lawn tractor and completely threw me off.
Kids are older now, and I'll be lucky to get a card....